Can You Accommodate My Growth? (Part 2 – Love That Gives Wings)

A man hugging and kissing his wife.

There is a woman in the Bible I’ve always admired — the woman described in Proverbs 31.

Many people say she’s unrealistic. Too perfect. Too accomplished. Too much.

But what stands out to me isn’t just her productivity.
It’s the environment that allowed her to flourish.

She ran businesses.
She bought land.
She traded goods.
She clothed her household.
She gave to the poor.

And nowhere do we see her asking permission to become more.

She had autonomy.
She had trust.
She had space.

Sometimes I think the unsung hero of that passage is her husband.

He wasn’t threatened by her industriousness.
He didn’t compete with her success.
He didn’t remind her of his sacrifices.

He let her fly. He just sat at the gate.

Not every woman starts marriage already “sorted.” Some grow within marriage. Some discover themselves later. Some bloom because someone finally believed in them.

Real love is not control.
It is support.

Real partnership is not permission.
It is trust.

So this is a gentle reflection — for husbands, for wives, for partners everywhere:
Can you make room for who the other person is becoming?

Because when love is secure, growth doesn’t reduce intimacy —
It deepens it.

May we eat the fruit of our labour.
May support return to us with joy.
May love grow sweeter, not bitter, as we grow.

Amen.